Your earthly life together with your loved one was real. Memories will always float up, reminding you that the past is forever a very real part of your life. Nothing can void or erase what you had in whatever lifetime you shared together. But living defensively in the present—in stalwart defense of the past—negates the defenseless future. “With the Lord a day is like a thousand years, and a thousand years are like a day” (2 Peter 3:8 NIV).