Be angry but do not sin.
Ephesians 4:26 NRSV
Grief is anger at the untimeliness of death. When shock gradually lifts, anger may show up unannounced. Anger may surprise you with its force and power. You are not prepared for its full frontal assault on your heart. Anger thrives and consumes vital energy if you provide a place in your heart for it to take root and grow. Anger is a manageable, short-term reaction to the death of your loved one.
God, I am shocked by the anger in my heart. I want to lash out and blame someone for the death of my loved one. May my anger not become sin. Amen.
Anger is a normal response to the injustice of death.