Do not be quick to anger.
Ecclesiastes 7:9 NRSV
Anger is a common emotional reflex to your separation from the one loved and lost to death. Yet anger is an emotion you are expected to ignore and resolve, especially when you grieve. Because society sees anger as a sign of weakness, you may feel pressure to repress your anger. When you deny your anger, you may experience both physical and emotional symptoms that add to your pain of loss. When you acknowledge your anger, then you are ready to work toward its positive resolution.
God, I am usually not an angry person. Yet I am so angry in my heart right now that my loved one died and left me. Help me to understand this anger that separates me from you. Amen.
Anger is a by-product of grief.