Because grief defies an exact moment, your instinct may be to ignore it rather than enter into it. Some who have experienced the death of a loved one choose simply to hang on mindlessly until grief is over. In fact, you do not enter into grief. Grief enters into you. You move from “Why did this happen?” to “How will I go on?” You experience disbelief and shock and then the reality of life without your loved one as you move into acceptance and on toward the end of grief.