But this one thing I do: forgetting what lies behind and straining forward to what lies ahead, I press on toward the goal for the prize of the heavenly call of God in Christ Jesus.
Philippians 3:13-14 NRSV
Grief is adjustment. If you think about it, all of life is about constant, subtle adjustment. Intuitively you conform to circumstance. God has given you the ability to assess instantaneously practically any situation; you are innately equipped to adjust. Yet adjustment assumes monumental proportions when you grieve. You have spent all or part of your life in a relationship with your loved one—a bond physically dissolved by the event of death. In order to adjust, you are forced to press on toward the goal of life, whatever may lie ahead.
God, in grief it is difficult to forget what lies behind. I pray for your vision as I strain forward in faith for what lies ahead. Amen.
My struggle to adjust may be a stubborn defense of the past, a reluctance to live in the present, or a rejection of hope for the future.