Take time for yourself on holidays—time to reflect, time to remember, time to forget. Let others know that they are not responsible for making you happy. Even if your loved one would want you to be happy, you do not have to be happy. Being happy, however, does not deny your grief for your loved one. When one day life returns more to happiness, holidays will be easier to manage. The experience of most people who are grieving is that eventually they do enjoy the holidays again.