Developing the self-confidence to value yourself as a worthwhile, stand-alone individual is a formidable hurdle of grief. This is the process of finding yourself again apart from the context of your loved one. As you transition through grief, slowly and gradually you re-individuate. Or perhaps you truly individuate for the first time in life as you uncover your identity without reference to your loved one. When you individuate, you find yourself within the whole of life and explore possibilities beyond your own imagination.