Your mind engages in a constant, ongoing dialogue with itself. You ask and answer; you consider and then reject. In grief it is exhausting to listen to a perpetual conversation of the mind, especially without your loved one present to respond and encourage. With acceptance you begin to speak less and listen more. “[W]hatever is true, whatever is honorable, whatever is just, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is gracious, if there is any excellence, if there is anything worthy of praise, think about these things” (Philippians 4:8 RSV).